Another day, another blog. My new blog post is about my amazing mother, Nicky. I know she's going to be embarrassed that I'm shining such a bright light on her, but she deserves it! I like every child ever reckons I've got the best mum, but I think we're all pretty lucky to have mums that are there for us, even when we get older. After all, you're never too old to need your mumma bear!
I'm 25-years-old, and while that's not considered 'old' I'm still old enough to be independent and live my life on my own two feet. Something I have learnt, especially in the last few weeks is just how important my mum is, I mean I've always known she's an important part of my life, but at 25 I've needed her now more than I ever have.
My mum is incredibly strong, and she hates me saying this to her, but she's my biggest inspiration in life. She took on a full-time uni degree while juggling a full-time job, a household (which consists of five adults, a 22-year-old cat, three dogs and a heard of birds), a cookie business and looking after her daughter, who recently hit rock bottom and no longer wanted to be alive. She took on all of those things and not once did she complain. She is so strong for what she went through, but she came out as an even better human (which is hard to understand since she’s already pretty damn amazing!).
I have two brothers (pictured above), and growing up we were nothing short of being a handful, but not once did we not feel loved or unappreciated. My mum went above and beyond to give us the best childhood and she always made sure we were happy, and trust me, we didn’t make it easy for her. Especially me. I went through a phase where I took all of the bad things that were happening to me out on my mum. She copped the short end of the stick and I was absolutely horrible to her, but through it all she never stopped reminding me how loved I was, and how no matter what I felt, she’d always be there for me. It took me a long time to see just how fortunate I was, and still am. She never once turned her back on me, and to this day she reminds me just how much she loves me, and on my worst days those words make all the difference.
Last year I had an ankle reconstruction. It took a huge toll on my life and I couldn’t do anything for myself. My mum gave up her life to be there for me and make sure I was as comfortable as possible. She made one of the worst experiences of my life so much more bearable, and she never ceased to make me smile, even when I was crying from the pain I was in. I think the whole experience made us closer, and I realised just how lucky I am to call this woman my mother.
On top of my ankle reconstruction I’ve also been battling some pretty dark demons, and my mum took time off to look after me and from that she truly saved my life. She went above and beyond to help me get through this rough patch, and with each passing day I appreciate her more and more. She is an angel on this earth, and I can honestly say I wouldn’t be where I am today without her.
I love being able to see my mum after a long day and tell her about how my new books are going, and I love being able to go out and have coffee with her while talking about the silliest of things, and when I think about it, sometimes there’s nothing that a mumma bear hug can’t fix! Mothers are our biggest supporters and are fiercest protectors, how lucky are we to have a mother who will love us unconditionally, even when our world is falling apart and we see no hope for our future. At the end of the day I think most children just want to make their mothers proud, and I sure hope that’s what my mum is, proud. If you’re lucky enough to still have your mum in your life, go and hug her, send her a nice text message, or take her out for coffee. As we get older we truly do realise the importance of our family, and our mums are the greatest gifts we’re ever given.
I love you, mum. You’re my best friend and my hero and if I ever become half the person you are I’ll be one lucky girl. We shouldn’t just rely on a day like Mother’s Day to remind our beautiful mothers just how wonderful they are, so mum, thanks for everything you do for me and for being my sunshine on my darkest days. You're my hero, now and forever.